Goal Achievement 101: Let Go of The Outcome

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Goal achievement 101: let go of the outcome

“The greatness of a man's power is the measure of his surrender.” –William Booth

One of the Knowareness Principles in my Integrated Development System is that achieving our personal and professional goals happens way more quickly when we surrender to the outcome and let go of our need for the end result.

Over time I received several question about the topic of surrendering when it comes to achieving goals; the most prominent one deals with the surrendering bit. “Action taking” and “surrendering” seem to be contradicting one another; so how can they coexist?

Well, in my philosophy, letting go IS an action step; it is part of the goal achievement process. As much as “doing nothing” is an action step, surrendering is. It requires effort on our behalf to let go of the outcome of our goal, and to watch it unfold.

Too often, we try to force things into existence. We hammer, drill, screw, dig, and work ourselves to the bone to force future potential in the direction we want to have it head in. We take all sorts of action steps to make sure we get what we want, and to prevent us from NOT getting it.

In that scenario we forget that our actions are just a minor part of the whole manifestation process; our INTENT is way more powerful! Moreover, limited as we are in our ability to oversee ALL the possibilities (remember: Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) states that reality is our PERCEPTION of it, which is limited!), we usually THINK we know the way to what it is we want, but really……., we don’t!

Surrendering, letting go, allowing (all mean the same) encompasses setting our intent, taking whatever action we can to make sure we are on track, and THEN letting the process of manifestation doing its work. That doesn’t mean we sit still and wait; on the contrary. We can still set action steps, but only when they are based on our enthusiasm and desire for the end result. As soon as we feel doubtful or fearful and use THAT as the reason for doing something, we are thwarting our own intention. Also, sometimes the result will come from a totally different direction than we thought it would. If we then try to redirect the course, because we think things are going “wrong”, we shooting ourselves in the foot!

I’ll use and example from my own coaching practice. I’ve always wanted to work with international clientele. I really didn’t have a clue how to manifest that, other than setting up a website, writing articles, positioning my business, and getting as much exposure as possible.

I did get some international success (I gave seminars in the Netherlands and Sweden, and had a handful of international clients, but that was it. My intention was still to do way more than that, and I surrendered to any option out there to give me that extra.

To cut a very long story short, I have been working with internet marketer Glenn Dietzel’s Awaken the Author Within system and Sell High Priced Programs for a while, but more on the back end. I did not have much client exposure for quite some time. Recently one of the business coaches on the team decided to pursue her own career, and suddenly I had about 15-20 new INTERNATIONAL clients, from all over the world…….

Now did I see this as the “logical” next step to achieve my initial goal of building my practice? Of course not. It “just happened”. Why? Well, my firm intention is because I let go of the HOW-question. I didn’t know HOW it was going to happen, I just trusted it would, because I had done what I thought I could to MAKE it happen.

I bet you have experienced something similar before yourself: you try to achieve something, and whatever you do, it doesn’t work. Ultimately, you throw your hands up in desperation and shout “ah, forget it!”. Not long after, the exact desired result shows up. That’s the power of letting go!

This is the Knowareness nugget I want you to take away from this example: you do not need to know the HOW’s of your manifestation process, as long as you know your WHAT’s and WHY’s. Action is a great step, but only after you got clear about what you want and why you want it, and can then trust the manifestation process to do its work for you.

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Firstly, when setting a goal, be very clear about what it is you want. In my Law of Attraction material I teach people to get that clarity by first finding out what they do NOT want anymore!

Secondly, always stay true to your intention, even when things seems to go “wrong” (whatever that is anyway….); the universe works in mysterious ways! Stay focused, and let go of the time frame in which you think “things should’ve happened”.

Thirdly, stay away from taking action when you don’t have a good feeling about that action. If you feel like doing something because you’re fearful, doubtful or impatient, it may not be the right motivator. Challenge your reasons for taking this action step. Can it wait? Have you got all the facts? Are you in “reaction-mode” rather than in “action-mode”? Is there an immediate risk that needs attending to, or is it all “in your mind”?

Lastly, be open to alternative ways that lead you to the same result. We just do not know all the roads to Rome, although all the roads do lead to Rome! Having the flexibility to change direction may lead to the same or and even better result!

Admittedly, not ALWAYS do we achieve our professional and personal goals. Sometimes there are other plans in place for us. The same Knowareness Principle applies: can you let go of your initial outcome, and redirect your course? The more flexible you are, the easier life will be perceived, which is a blessing once you start to experience it I’ll touch on that in future articles.

Getting More Out of Life

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"Putting off an easy thing makes it hard. Putting off a hard thingmakes it impossible." -George Claude Lorimer

Welcome to this edition of Getting More Out of Life, the ezine that is designed to give you awareness and "helicopter perspective" about what is going on in your professional and personal life. Awareness and self reflection are THE keys to success and fulfilment, combined with a system of understanding yourself and others.

Action!

A great Australian singer called Delta Goodrem brought out a song called “One Day”. She’s sings about how she is going to travel. One Day. How she is going to learn to speak Japanese. One Day. How she’ll learn to like herself. One day. How she’ll play the guitar. One day. One day it’ll be okay, is the tenor of the song.

Too many times we plan, visualize, budget and think about what we are going to do (one day), but it never really happens.

Action is what makes things happen. Not just any action, though, which is where many people slip up.

Too many people still think that “failing forward” is the way to go when it comes to creating results. Within the personality profiles it’s the Kangaroo type that’s most prone to this approach. Action, action, action, until they drop.

Admittedly, this approach can work quite well, but always comes at a price, whether it’s physical or mental wear and tear, or neglect of people around you.

Many coaches, mentors and consultants emphasise the importance of action RIGHT NOW. Now is always the right time, tomorrow is too late, is their motto.

I agree with them when we look at procrastination in relation to goals we really want to achieve. Not doing anything NOW would be really silly.

What we generally find, though, is that we don’t have any procrastination issues at all when we know what we want, and the desire is in line with our values. Just think back to a time when you were absolutely on track, and you knew what was driving you. Was there any procrastination? Probably not, or hardly any!

Action is awesome and can be successful, but it does presuppose there is a “thing” you are after, a goal you want to achieve.

Advanced Awareness in our lives dictates that we FIRST find out what it is we truly want, in relation to our values, and THEN make a plan to achieve it. As long as we are in line with our values, and have an actionable plan, we usually achieve what it is we desire.

More often than not we are not living out our own dreams. We let our goals be dictated by society, friends, family, bosses, partners, etc. THAT’s where procrastination becomes a problem. The desire is not ours, our motivation is low, and therefore our actions are scattered and few in numbers.

The solution? Well, here are a couple.

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Firstly: be open and honest: where and on what do you spend most of your money, time, energy, focus, etc.? Is it your family, work, relationships, your body, your finances, your personal development, your spirituality? Have awareness and look closely where most of your daily attention goes. I know, for instance, that most of my energy goes to personal growth, reading, and finding ways to make a passive income.

Secondly: as much as you can, prioritise your current values and goals list: what is your number 1 attention item, your number 2, etc.? Also, do you like the way this is set up? In other words: is your values list and the order of priority correct?

Thirdly: set some tangible, short, medium and long term goals in the top 3 of your list. Be specific, and make the results tangible.

Lastly: start walking! Take baby steps (or major ones if you’re really committed) towards your goal, and commit to doing SOMETHING each and every day, until you reach your destination. You’ll find you will hardly have any procrastination issues at all as, if you’ve done it right, you are living your life or treating your business according to your values.

The next step is applying the same technique to goals you want to kick, but have some resistance with. I know, for instance, that I have resistance in building an e-commerce business I am in. On the other hand, I also know that I really want the results from it, which drives me forward. I know what I need to do, and am putting it into practice. The next issue of this ezine will be focused on tackling this!

And for a bit of humorous wisdom, here’s The Roman Rule:

The one who says it cannot be done should never interrupt the one who is doing it.

Product of the month:

The key to living a more fulfilling professional and personal life lies in becoming more aware, more “present”. Aware Presence transcends all time, is not bound by past or future. It means living in the now. This is the concept my clients have been imbued with since I started coaching and mentoring; more and more people are latching on to this idea!

To facilitate becoming more aware and present, I recorded a CD called “Zero Field”. It allows you to do just that: become more present, more in the NOW.

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Until next time, go well, be well, and live well.